I’m currently reading “A Stranger to Myself: The Inhumanity of War : Russia, 1941-1944″, a unique testimony from Willy Peter Reese, a German soldier in WWII, of the horrors of the Eastern Front. Death is a constant and terrible presence throughout the author’s time there; he also eventually in 1944 fell to this omnipotent and omnipresent companion. The author lives long and closely with death, and he is observant and eloquent; the book is thus a rare opportunity to virtually experience the awesome transformative power of death, in its positive and negative effects.
I am reading it in the German original, and have freely translated a short passage here on the vicinity of death to the soldiers on the Eastern Front.
“We lived in death’s vicinity. But it was not death itself that was grievous. Its indecision, its omni-presence, constituted its horror and and its greatness. It was not the long-spared it loved but the quickly-felled. Yet, it transformed us with each passing year, led us through the secret chambers of the soul, awakened the angel in the good and the spirit of Cain in the bad. It filled us up and boarded us over, cast out fruit from us and created a sea of misery from a drop of melancholy. Thus it grew up over us like a triumphant tree.
To the weak, it presented itself as a shadow, plunged him into the hysterical laughter of desperation, awakened feverish desire for ardour and lust for life, extinguished the last flames of renunciation and goodness, devotion and faith, then it ripped off his mask and let him fall like a piece of wasted carrion.
Some inclined to death as to a ripened fruit. The far-traveled spirit willingly anchored himself in his own Hades, and preparation for it became his happiness. There death was like a light from within. No spirit world could be shattered by it, and time crowned its persistence.
But in its vicinity all values were renewed. Gold became vanity, while every slice of bread appeared precious. Books became flat or found deeper meaning, love found its completion or trickled away. Only the essential survived. And so death made us into new and better people.”
I’m stimulated to this post by Charles Cowling’s review of DeathMatters on his Good Funeral Guide Blog.
Charles, I’m pleased that you seem to have mostly understood what I’m aiming at with DeathMatters – reawakening an awareness of death as a way of living better and remembering better. (But you should also have specified “living more compassionately”, because true death awareness leads also to genuine compassion through sensing our common tragic nature. Every life ends with a personal tragedy.)
You are not convinced that my quote from Ernst Jünger indicates that I believe “atheism generates a form of idiocy”. Thank you for your suspension of judgement – I do not believe that. I may personally believe in something higher beyond material life, but I do not judge others who do not believe this as idiots. In my opinion, it all depends upon how one comes to one’s beliefs, that is, how well supported they are by experience and serious contemplation of the matter.
I would far prefer a conversation with a serious and intelligent atheist than a narrow-minded believer whose faith has not been acquired through personal trial and effort. (Indeed, why else am I continuing with this exchange
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On the other hand, there are at least as many idiotic and closed-minded “believers in atheism” as there are in God or gods. The former are doubly idiotic for not realizing that their atheism is in fact a form of faith. Higher intelligences can be as little empirically disproved, as as they can be proved – categorical disbelief in them can only therefore derive from a “true-believers” structure. Otherwise it would be agnosticism.
Regarding practices required to increase death awareness – I may claim to recognize a huge problem, but I’m not arrogant enough to propose solutions, as so many glibly do to all kinds of problems. This is a personal work in progress, and my blog serves also as a place for me to express the tiny discoveries I make on the journey.
On that note, I also do not propose, as the Reverend Murrey does, that God is the solution. I’ll get back to the Reverend below!
Yes, I do believe that personal continuity is the Grand Prix compared to the other forms mentioned. And I think that anyone who has once felt this possibility to be true understands what I mean. Until then, one consoles oneself with what is less but certain.
But other forms of continuity are not valueless, not at all. Memories of the dead and their thoughts and achievements are critical to the building up of culture, which is essentially based on the layering of these memories – “humus” and “human” are related etymologically. And lasting family memories are expressions of love which have their positive effects also within the family that lives on, indeed only there.
But to be frank, I couldn’t care less not only about Apple’s continual progress, but also about my genetic legacy. We will pass this on in exactly the same form as we inherited it – nothing has been evolved or improved on here, excepting some gradual mutation leading to species evolution. The genetic legacy is really just nature doing its thing – it may be marvelous but it is not strictly my thing, nor even my family’s. As some say, the satisfaction we get from seeing our faces in our offspring is a result of the con-game played by nature to achieve its aims. Even Dawkins would probably agree – the selfish gene, the species pursuing its purposes and fooling us into thinking that this is what immortality is about. This is a real booby prize IMHO.
Now, onto this astounding video you found! Where do you find such things?
I only partly approve. At first glance, I even thought you were making fun of me. But I understood the appropriateness when the Reverend began making his own efforts at fighting death denial – one in 113 in this room will die this year, 223,000 will die this year etc. Good for him – this is true and it should be actively contemplated. I like that he doesn’t pull his punches out of fake sentimentality or cowardice.
Indeed, I particularly like what may of all things seem the most disrespectful or shocking to you – his emphasizing of the awfulness of death by direct reference to the deceased lying right there in the casket, with all her loved ones present. But when he begins moralizing near the end about the life she lived, about Hell etc, then I’m out of there. Just as I disagree with his exploitation of the awfulness of death to convert people to his narrow conception of God.
We all ideally need to come to our own understanding and integration of death and how it could be overcome - but this process must be real and conscious, not simulated or provided ready-made by others. Funerals with real dead loved ones are the best possible moments to work on this. Just let’s keep the moralizing and proselytising out of it.
But again, the Reverend’s opportunistic use of the funeral, of the presence of freshly experienced personal tragedy, to sharply increase death awareness, even while causing pain, is a surprisingly close manifestation of what I described this way in Medicine for Life:
It is said that in certain ancient societies the morally correct way of behaving when someone died was to spend many days collectively and mutually impressing upon each other the inevitability of everyone present also dying, as the deceased had. A far cry from today’s sentimental treatment of tragedy, the ancients’ behavior courageously used the inescapable tragedy to help the living better appreciate the gift of their own life. The deceased was in any case dead – nothing to be done – so the resulting sadness was exploited for the good of the still-living. It may sound harsh, but it is actually healthier and more pragmatic than our utterly useless sentimentality – as if condolences truly make any survivor feel better when their loved one has been wrenched away forever!
When I was writing the mission statement for this site some time ago (”Medicine for LIFE“), I used the words mortality and mortals extensively. It occurs to me now how unfashionable these words have become, particularly the latter.
In ancient literature, particularly in mythologies where humans existed alongside gods, titans, demons and other immortals, humans were characterized by their one universal difference from all these other life forms. The others lived forever, whereas we mortals were condemned to die, unpredictably and after only a brief earthly existence.
What was so obvious to the ancients, indeed the primary attribute of humanity, has become invisible to us. But the ancients understood better, more objectively – for what unites all human beings is our common equalizing mortality. We are all mortals – some of us get given a few more years, some even a few more happy years than others. But in the end, we are all pathetically equally mortal. In comparison with the lifespans of the universe, of the earth, of the species and even of certain of our own artworks, we are blips on the radar screen, indistinguishable one from the other.
Our awareness of ourselves as mortals humbled us with respect to the immortals – to the gods, to the earth, to nature, to art. It imposed sensible limits on our ambitions in their realms. And our common mortality made us respect those who were equally mortal with us – our fellow human beings and the animals. An acute awareness of being mortal also created the basis of our hunger for immortality – you can only hunger for what you are aware of not having. Religions were formed to answer these hopes, some better, some more honest than others – but all in all humanity lived in hope of something more than a short brutish life on earth (and this is not the place to argue about all the admittedly detrimental effects of false or corrupted religions!)
Since losing all hopes for any form of eternal after-life, as well as all external frames of reference for immortality such as gods, we have become our own subjective frame of reference when it comes to life. We thus take the trivial differences in longevity and fortune existing between men as all-significant and desperately attempt to equalize what is relatively-speaking already equal – to the gods, to the earth, even to the species, there is no significant difference between one human life and another.
Our loss of an objective frame of reference for life has other negative effects: We feel ourselves infinitely superior to our non-human fellow mortals, the animals, and lord it over them as gods. We instinctively refrain from building or planning anything for the long term, since anything beyond our own short existence no longer has psychological reality for us. We are less interested in history and art, since they are also symbolically connected with transcendence over time and thus immortality of a sort. And we expend enormous sums and efforts in medical research, health care, sanitation etc in order to extend our lives for a few more usually-miserable years.
How the immortals – and indeed those humans who still aspire to immortality – must chuckle at our foolish vanity!
I think it would be a very positive sign for the world if we became mortals once again – and I shall do my best to rehabilitate this word!
In a recent discussion about perservering through all the difficulties of life, I retorted at one point, “But in the end, the only thing that really matters is not dying. Anything is better than that”. To which was answered, “Are you sure? What if one suffers terribly?” I realized my mistake - what really matters is being happy to be alive, and not just avoiding the worst case scenario, death.
So ask yourself – do you live life ex-positivo or ex-negativo – are you positively enjoying your life, or are you basically unhappy but at least not dead?
I suggest that most of us are in the latter category, however counter-intuitive that might seem in a society so supposedly happy and dynamic. I’ll try to explain.
I suggest that we collectively tell ourselves white lies, albeit subconscious ones. That the vast majority of us live essentially unhappy and empty lives. But since we are impotent to change this, we are forced to pretend that we are happy and enjoying life. The only other alternative – to wish or wait hopefully for death – is not the option it was in the past, since death has become NOTHINGNESS to us.
Thus we “choose” to accept living dull unhappy lives. And we protect ourselves from the futility of this choice-that-is-no-choice by distraction and self-delusion. We distract ourselves with sex, partying, extreme sports, continous consumption of media and matter and see these as signs of vigor, when they are really symptoms of death denial. And we delude ourselves somewhere between our subconscious – which closely watches the invisible bogeyman from the corner of its eye – and our conscious level, which sees only externals and thus perceives all the pretence of vigor as living reality. This optical illusion convinces us that we are happy to be alive, perhaps even exceptionally so, more than any past civilizations.
The truth is the opposite: metahistorically we are living the nihilistic terminal phase of our civilization, which is essentially dying to its old form and precisely for that reason must be death-denying in order to keep moving forward at all.
This death denial expresses itself wherever death comes into unavoidable contact with life…. We keep brain-dead humans alive on machines for months, when they are no longer conscious enough for happiness to have any meaning. We force old people against their own wills into nursing homes, where, instead of them dying naturally at home with the family, paid strangers tend their bedsores, “disimpact” them (manually remove the feces when their bowels no longer work), ignore their terrible loneliness, and treat them like mindless infants. In North America, we have a ridiculous and childish fear of cemeteries, which should instead be beautiful sanctuaries of peace in a mad machine-driven world. We scoff simplistically at death and don’t see that this is actually a defensive reaction from our impotence against it. And we lapse into an unnatural silence at any serious mention or connotation of death that unfortunately comes our way.
Are these evidence of a society that is revels in the joy of life – or one that is scared witless by death?
It would be healthier if we could be more honest with ourselves – if we could admit that it is insufficient not to be dead, that we should find positive meaning and joy in being alive. Only by bravely facing up to our reality – and from the heart-felt pain that would result – can a genuine solution to the problem of existence materialize.
A plausible new vision of an after-life for example? I don’t know.
But I can tell you honestly, that I don’t care anymore when I die – because I’m happy to be alive!!
It has long astonished me how clever we have become about eliminating the visibility (that is to say, the reminders) of death in our modern world.
This has not happened only by chance and greater competition for space from “life enterprises” – there is deep subconscious death denial at work here, manifesting itself from the individual through the family and up to the institutions such as city planners etc.
Yet this aberration is of no real importance. I don’t want to sound like a prophet of doom, but when death is denied, or pushed forward a few years by health care, it does not disappear or experience a reduction – it merely accumulates behind the dam, like water that is not allowed to flow naturally to the sea. At some point, the dam breaks or overflows and death become visible again with a vengeance.
We would do well to address this issue now, attempt to let some of this natural flow occur – practically by rethinking our health care strategies and psychologically/spiritually in our homes, churches and city squares.
“Death? It’s the only thing we haven’t succeeded in completely vulgarizing!” Aldous Huxley
Seeing this provocative phrase atop one of the pages of the Perpetua’s Passages site made me pick up Huxley’s excellent compilation of essays on art again, “On Art and Artists”. Although I didn’t find the source of the quote there, I did find an essay entitled “Art and the obvious”, with direct relevence to death matters.
Before I begin, the reader needs to understand the essay’s essential message.
Huxley differentiates between two kinds of obvious truths: the Great Obvious Truths, those eternal unchanging ones, such as the brutality of war, the shortness of life, maternal love, the therapeutic effects of nature, the mystery of death etc; and the small obvious truths, the ephemeral localized ones – that America is the most powerful nation at present, that Toyota makes better cars than Lada, that heels are higher this year than last year etc.
Both groups of truth are obvious, and art occupies itself with both of them. The public is also interested in both: it likes being able to recognise the small obvious truths; and it wants to be reminded of and retold the Great Obvious Truths which it cannot so easily grasp.
Now as populations grew in the last century and the swelling masses demanded their own daily dose of art, so more and more mediocre artists dedicated themselves to supplying this mass need. Art by mediocre artists is necessarily mediocre, so when these artist addressed themselves to the Great Obvious Truths they necessarily produced what is best described as kitsch – sentimental, superficial, easy to swallow.
As incompetent and false interpretations of the Great Obvious Truths filled the marketplace, the minority group of truly sensitive and gifted artists felt increasingly repelled by all obvious truths, Great and small. They simply didn’t want to be associated with all the incompetence, falseness and kitsch of the popular art. So they turned away from addressing anything obvious, towards the unusual, the unexpected, the invented, the obscurest of realities. For the first time in millenia, the best artists refused to address the most archetypal and significant facts of human nature, the Great Obviousnesses – including death.
Result? The plastic arts were stripped of their literary qualities, reduced to mere formal relations of their elements. The tragic, mournful and tender was removed from music, which now only expressed motion and energy. And literature excluded all the great obviousnesses of human nature from its subject matter.
The (erroneous) popular justification for all of this was that human nature had fundamentally changed in the last few years, and modern man was deeply different from all his ancestors.
This is how Huxley saw it – and I completely agree with him. Indeed, when we turn to death matters, the most consequential and eternal of all Great Obvious Truths, we see that modern art has completely abandoned the field. For two centuries or so, it has been left to the talents of the most mediocre of the mediocre “artists”. NO, I correct myself – not even to them, but to technicians and draftsmen paid by businesses to produce something, anything, to sell as a pseudo-memorial, a pseudo-ritual.
A bizarre state of affairs, because until now death had always been the great topic for artists, right back from the Egyptians. Of course – because it is the ultimate question, which no science or other human initiative can even attempt to solve or explain. Only Art can even approach death with some hope of “success”. Even the major religions, which were Art’s grandest achievements, were also fundamentally concerned with the defeat of death, the artistic defeat of it.
Now hardly a serious artist dares approach the subject. A bad state of affairs indeed! Because contrary to our progressive fantasies, humans have not changed in their essence and death is as relevent now as it ever was. It still kills everyone of us -and no solution is in sight.
To return to the Huxley quote. Did he actually contradict himself – has death not also been vulgarized in our society? Certainly in the funeral industry, death has been vulgarized to the nth degree. What about in the art world, in the rare moments when it dares approach the subject?
Recently I saw two rare exhibitions devoted to death, one in Berlin, one in Vienna. I wouldn’t call most of what I saw vulgar – rather I found the insights of most artists depressingly simplistic, “adolescent” in comparison with the subject material. Evidently, even our best artists have lost the thread of this eternal Great Obviousness.
But there is always room for hope. I believe a time is coming when Art will rediscover this eternal font of genuinely significant subject material. I have found a few initiatives that are trying to resurrect true funeral art. (See Perpetua’s Passages for example.) May these efforts signify a new approach to the Great Obvious Truth of death and dying.